I love seeing missed lifts on social media.
Truly, I do.
I’ll scroll through 10 PR’s or impressive feats without stopping, but when I see someone truly grind, sweat and push with everything they have —only to fail— I don’t hesitate to give it a like.
No, I’m not some narcissist that takes delight in others failure.
I like the refreshing honesty and the guts of a missed lift, of watching how an athlete reacts to failure. Anyone who has been doing powerlifting, Olympic weightlifting, CrossFit, etc. knows how frustrating the line can be between a miss and a mark. Between first and second, or not placing at all.
There’s so much that we can learn from lifting that correlates to life. You spend so many mundane moments alone in a gym, motivating yourself and putting in work with no guarantee that it will pay off when it matters most. And, even when it doesn’t, you are still here. Still sweating, still working, still hoping.
You don’t often see these moments on Instagram, the days you’re wearing baggy sweatpants or mismatched socks, the nights you’ve got no motivation and your technique is off. Or the early mornings, where your hair is thrown up or your eyes still half-shut and everything feels just a little bit heavier.
Social media will tell you that everyone but you is improving.
That the guy across from you has added 20-lbs to his squat so you should get on his program.
That the woman 10 years older than you has lost 15-lbs so you should eat exactly what she’s eating.
So much of our time on social media is about comparison.
What are the best-looking people in the world eating? How do the best lifters lift? That’s the program for us. That’s the technique we need.
But fitness is totally, incredibly PERSONAL.
You can’t lift like that Olympian because you have a short torso and long arms and they aren’t built that way. You can’t eat exactly like that woman at the gym because your NEAT is different than hers and she has two hours to spend lifting to your one. And that guy who added 20-lbs, to his squat? His knees can handle that volume and his ankle dorisflexion gives him the ability to air squat in his sleep.
You can’t do EXACTLY what you see others do online because you are different. And it doesn’t mean you won’t reach those same goals or ideal bodyweight.
You just have to figure out who you are, as a person, as an athlete, as a human being on this planet, and stay the course.
The best-angle, best-filter, best-lift of your life? It has a place, sure. Everyone is motivated by watching someone PR or transform their body.
You know what else is motivating? The journey, the struggle. Showing your human side. Having the confidence to fail over and over until you succeed.
Fitness and nutrition is not a highlight reel. Your life is not one big PR. Stop treating your training like it should be.