Social Sabotage: Why You Really Aren’t Getting Better

You do it. Nearly everyone does. The biggest mistake Dawn Fletcher, owner and founder of Mentality WOD, sees on a daily basis has nothing to do with lifting technique, mobility or even athletic ability.

“Everyone from the competitive athlete to the general gym-goer is way way way too hung up and caught up in engaging whether it’s in feedback via your phone or conversation about stuff that a) doesn’t matter, b) you can’t control, c) is just nonsense,” Fletcher said.

Dawn Fletcher, owner of Mentality WOD

“Whether it’s ‘hey did you hear?’ and ‘this person’s coaching and they’re not’ and ‘why don’t they do more weightlifting?’ All of that chatter is just a waste of time. It takes away from you and what you’re there for.

But we’re so used to doing that, that’s how we just build rapport with others—we talk, we gossip, we look at things online. It’s all just waste and we get caught up in all of that shit. If you don’t think it’s impacting you, it impacts you.”

Fletcher, who has a masters in Kinesiology with a specialization in Sport Psychology, is a certified strength and conditioning specialist and a Level 3 CrossFit coach. She’s worked with high-level individual Games athletes, Masters athletes, box owners and regular gym goers. And she’s seen countless times the common pitfalls that can stall progress, increase burnout and leave athletes feeling unsatisfied.

“Before you know it [with all this wasted energy] you leave the gym and you feel kind of empty. Yeah you did a workout, but you feel ‘eh’ like it wasn’t that good,” she said.

“Instead of that more positive feeling after a workout, because of all of what you’ve heard and all of the conversations that you’ve had or what you’ve seen on social media, you start to feel the [all of that] resonating. And it starts to wear on you in a way that you might not even know.”

So, how do you make your thoughts work for you?

TIPS TO GET YOUR MIND RIGHT

Remove all social media from your phone for 72 hours.

“Try that. If you haven’t yet, you already have a problem,” Fletcher said. “If you’re a regular gym-goer, you’re there for forty-five minutes to an hour—turn your phone off. If you’re training CrossFit pretty seriously, maybe three to six hours a day, obviously you’re going to have to check your phone and see what’s going on.

But say there’s a segment where you’re doing an hour and a half or two hours of focused training, turn that thing off and throw it in your bag. Or use it for filming and timing and keep it on airplane mode. And practice having a more healthy relationship with that.”

Fly solo.

See if you are able to go to the gym, do your workout and not talk to anybody. Try it one time, just as an experiment. Walk in, put your headphones on, have your own little mental prep, do your workout —yes, you can say smile and wave to people— and then leave.

“If you’re one of those people who typically gets there and begins talking about the workout, and how this guy scored and that girl scored and why the programming is the way it is- just try it.” Fletcher said.

Assess what works best for YOU.

“Look at everything like a practice or an experiment, and don’t take it so seriously [and think] ‘Oh, I can’t ever look at my phone when I’m at the gym!’ No, just try it for three or four days,” Fletcher said. “Most people aren’t willing to even try something different.”

And therein lies the edge, if you’re willing to take it. Turn your email off at night. Turn off your push notifications. Try socializing less and see where it takes you. Are you more clear-headed? Do you like it better? Do you feel better?

“It’s a challenge, but you can build those habits,” Fletcher said. “Just learning new habits that will help you be more intentional, be more focused, be more present—all of those things everyone knows is more beneficial. But it starts with eliminating and trying new things.”

As you develop a daily routine at the gym, practice being present. Really focus on what you’re doing at that current moment in your training and get the most out of it you can.

HOW TO MENTALLY PREPARE FOR A HARD WORKOUT

Most people know how to physically prepare for a workout, but very few people are doing any kind of mental prep. Fletcher recommends this super easy, 10-second approach.

“The next time you go to the gym, put your car in park, turn off your electronics for one minute, and just remind yourself ‘Why am I here today?,’” she said. “That can be a game changer for how you perform that day or what you get out of the gym, if you’re going to have a positive experience or not, just by preparing yourself a little bit mentally.”

Simple things like that built into your training routine can also carry over into your job, school or other daily tasks outside the gym.

“Before you do something, reminding yourself why am I here, what do I want out of this, what are my intentions?.’” Fletcher said. “Boom. [It’s] a simple practice that can make a big difference in how you go about your life.”

Some of the more advanced athletes Fletcher works with, those going to Regionals and the Games, have developed a 10-15 minute daily mental prep routine before every session. Those include things like utilizing a breathing practice, writing down specific notes and goals for each session or visualizing past workouts or journal notes. After the workouts, they’ll write more notes in an online journal tracking everything from their mood to their sleep.

“Building that kind of stuff into your routine makes a big difference in how your training session is going to go,” Fletcher said. “Mental training is all about getting your thoughts to help you accomplish what you want instead of holding you back.”

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For more tips and information on mental training, check out MentalityWOD.com